It's natural for us to defend ourselves against uncertainty. Uncertainty is amplified by resistance and unacceptance. And since uncertainty is universal we need not take it personally. Some of us are just better actors or actresses when it comes to managing our anxieties. Our mind has the capacity to really spin out of control. That's why it's vital "not" to believe everything it tells us. A major aspect of maturity is learning to live with and be at peace with uncertainty. Learning to build a refuge in our heart, which is still pure and untainted, protects us from the preprogrammed prattling of doom and gloom that a theatrical histrionic mind provides us ever so generously. Our nervous system expects things to be a certain way. It equates predictability with safety. Well, guess what, life and people are unpredictable, and uncertainty feels unsafe. So when life throws us off balance we need to learn to recalibrate our physiology or we remain anxious. Adaptation to stress was meant to be temporary, not a chronic way of life. Learning to reflect rather than react illuminates vivid choice points where "we" consciously choose which path to go down; the intentional or the impulsive. Unfortunately uncertainty makes us stay put. Ambiguity cannot be avoided and becomes a real pain in the ass when we try and control it. What fun are we to ourselves or others if we're constantly trying to gain control over everything. Yuck. There is a space between uncertainty and knowing. It's called liminal space. It's when something is, "no longer," but, "not yet." We need to become interested in this space, this time of puzzlement, this waiting period, not fearful of it. Instead of saying to yourself, "What can I control," ask, "What can I choose." The best choice is usually not your first impulse. Learning to stay in the present works great for most creatures, maybe we should take a cue. Developing a healthy inner dialogue reminds us, "We can make it through anything." I mean really, what's the alternative. We can assemble an "inner team" composed of nurturing figures, protecting figures, and wise figures. We can learn to listen to their voices that would indeed, reassure us, "Yes you can make it through anything." Since our minds have difficulty distinguishing between whats real and imagined, why not feed it the good stuff. Imagine, imagining the good stuff. Imagine a language of comfort that integrates the supportive words these figures would tell us. They would implore us to face reality head-on so we can regain the equilibrium necessary to "cope ahead." Uncertainty needs to be soothed like a dog frightened by the thunder. When we do this we literally change the way our brain fires, and the good news is that no medicine involved.